What I’m Leaving Behind in My Twenties
It is crazy to think that 30 is just around the corner. Although, when I look in the mirror, I don’t see thirty. But then again, what does thirty even look like?
My twenties were about growth and a list of lessons I’ve learned the hard way. My twenties also consisted of milestones that changed my life forever. In my twenties, I struggled. I hit rock bottom. I left an unhealthy relationship despite what anyone else has to say and became a single mother. I became a homeowner, started therapy, and got my heart broken a few times. However, I survived. I may have had some embarrassing moments, which included a speeding ticket or two, throwing up in the club, throwing up in my best friend’s car, getting hit in the face with a porta potty door (my face hurt for weeks) and there is probably so much more. I also went back to school, completed a diploma, a degree and started my masters. Plus, I started Sincerely, Shan!
I can’t express enough the growth that I have experienced throughout my twenties. Those who are close to me know what I have been through and what I have overcome. Reflecting on my experiences throughout my twenties, there are a few things that I plan to leave behind.
Unhealthy Relationships
Everyone has experienced an unhealthy/toxic relationship. Individuals who don’t want the best for you, narcissistic tendencies, condescending or manipulative behaviours. The list can go on forever. Unhealthy relationships are not restricted to romantic partners or friends, but also includes family members. We shouldn’t hold space for these types of relationships, they are distractions, and they hold us back. It’s okay to let these relationships go.
Self-Doubt
I have doubted myself so many time in my twenties, it is one of the hardest things to stop doing. When times are rough or when those toxic individuals start projecting, self-doubt starts to creep around. There are consequences to self-doubt, we miss out on our dreams and our goals. We don’t go after what we truly want. I have allowed self-doubt to set me back way too many times. I truly plan to do my best to leave self-doubt in my past.
Making Quick Decisions
This is one that is somewhat hard to express as there are times in which we are required to make quick decision. However, in my thirties I want to make calculated decisions. I want to make my decision-making process a priority. The decisions we make should align with where we want to be in the future.
People-Pleasing
People-pleasing has led me to give more to others than they were even willing to give to me. To keep the “peace” in many situations, I became a doormat, which is terrible. Pleasing others had me saying yes when I should have said no. When we please others, we often choose to sacrifice our needs, wants and values. As a result, we are left empty, and we betray ourselves to make others happy. My mental health is a priority, and there is no room for people-pleasing in my thirties.
Leave a comment below! What is something you gave up heading into your thirties? What do you plan to start doing in your 30s?